It is supposed to be a fraternity of people of like mind. People who are drawn together as they share a common interest. They share stories, painting techniques, opinions in a reasoned and adult manner. Instead there are people who seem to do and say things online that they just wouldn’t do in the real world.
I don’t know why it happens to me, maybe I’m too opinionated, maybe I’m overly sensitive, but I have reason to be. I’m tired of being kicked around, taken advantage of, mistreated and generally treated like shit. I let people get away with it for too long, not because I have no spine, but because I thought it was a misunderstanding. I wanted things to be better, so I suffered in silence. I bit my tongue. I went away and I never came back because things never got better.
And you know what? More people just kept doing the same stupid shitty stuff. It is one thing to be completely fucked over by people you trust and care about and put up with it for the good of… well I’m not sure what anymore. It is another thing entirely to take abuse from random people on the internet for expressing an opinion. I know there are misunderstandings in online communication. I don’t like them but supposedly when you put a smiley after what you say, it means it is all in fun, or jest, or something.
You don’t expect someone you don’t know to say “Fuck you”. You can remove the two middle letters to get around some automated internet sensor, but the meaning is clear.
This is a hobby. H-o-b-b-y. People like me give a lot of time teaching people to play, or paint, or letting people use our stuff. I’m a nice guy. Too fucking nice, people take advantage of me and I’m sick and tired of it. I started this little hobby blog, to blog about painting miniatures. That is it. I’m not advocating white supremacy. I’m not denying the holocaust. I’m just writing about some miniatures I painted for some games I some time have time to play. That is it.
There are good people in this hobby. I believe Ron the guy who runs From the Warp is one of them. I even think Zac is a good guy. But I can’t take this shit. My hobby time is suppose to be relaxing. I paint the miniatures. I put them on a table. I roll some dice. I lose. I go home and type up a battle report. I go to a few hobby sites. I share the battle report and my opinion with a few individuals who I thought were reasonable people, who shared the same hobby as me. A hobby about painting miniatures, pushing them around on a table while rolling some dice, and now people post pictures and stories online for their amusement and the amusement of others. People engage in online discussions, maybe they get a tad off topic but c’est la vie. It is just a hobby.
Stating “Fuck You” after my comment is pretty clear you take extreme exception to something I said. And I don’t see what I said that would warrant such a response. I didn’t express any hate. I didn’t criticize anyone except vaguely Americans in general and that is fair we live North of you, if you can’t take a joke, send Colbert North again, we Ice Holes can take a joke. But even saying some Americans play an extreme version of Warhammer 40,000 is true, some Americans enjoy an extremely competitive version of the game and are willing to forgo sportsmanship, painting, army composition, and some would say common sense in order to prove to the world or say 37 people online that they are the best.
That’s fine it doesn’t interest me and I find it amusing that some people take a hobby so seriously they’d resort to cheating to win a little tournament in Seattle. But when I’m just trying to relax, and I have random people in the real world come up to me and say “Fuck you!” Well I want to know what the hell? And on the Internet people seem to think what they say and do doesn’t matter, but let me tell you it does.
Someday, somebody will remember something you said or did online and you’ll lose an opportunity because of it. You may think it doesn’t matter, I’m l33t, Muskie McKay is an asshole, fuck him. He’s just bitter and old. But I’m a reasonable person and I’m speaking from experience, hard, hard, hard earned experience.
You’re not impressing anyone with your two word vocabulary. And in fact you upset me further and I’m just trying to relax at the end of the day. All I wanted to do was type up a battle report and share it with a few people on an Internet forum. Apparently in doing so I’ve caused great offense to two people. And I just don’t see it…
I just don’t see what crime or heinous act I’ve committed that warranted personal attacks.
I mean “What is it with people online in this hobby?”
After I hit “publish”, I’m turning off my laptop. Right off. I’m leaving it off until tomorrow morning when I need to resume my life. There is at least one hobby site I won’t be returning to after this evening. I don’t want to make it two.